Let’s say that you’re someone who doesn’t readily let people get too close to you.  However, you are in a state of pain that is so great, you are compelled to let someone else in so that they can help you.  That is a good thing, because it can speed up the process of healing.  […]

Whenever we are in a state of healing, be it physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually, we usually are dependent on others.  We need other human beings, and that can be a difficult proposition in itself, for many reasons.  Doubtless, there have been times in life when independence was a definite advantage.  But when we are […]

The Sufi’s say pain is the doorway to God.  While all of us might not be in that same place of awareness, it’s not too hard to understand where the Sufis are coming from. Let’s face it.  Most of the time, pain brings us to our knees, regardless of whether the nature of the pain […]

When you think back on my blog entries so far in 2009, you’ll recall that January’s theme was Change, and February’s theme was Love.  In March, I am going to focus on … Pain. Each of us has experienced various types of pain in our lives, whether it was of a physical, emotional, mental or […]

During the past few weeks, I have talked about the essential roles that Trust and Forgiveness play in our lives.  This week, I want to talk about the third essential: Acceptance. After a slew of tragic circumstances and poor choices in my life, I finally learned how to reclaim my ability to trust.  Trust led […]

Last, week, I shared with you something very painful; the loss of the love of my life.  If you will recall, I talked about how difficult it was to reconnect to my heart and regain the trust we each must have in order to love – or learn to love – again. Even before the […]

I can hardly believe it.  It seems like just yesterday we were in the midst of the holiday season, and now February has arrived.  For some of us, there is nothing to look forward to over the next several weeks but more wintry weather.  However, the romantics among us look forward to Valentine's Day.  For […]

Last week, I challenged you to change the way you perceive certain experiences in your life.  Today, I'm asking you to embrace another change in perspective, and I am guessing that this will be a tougher challenge. We all have people in our lives that we just automatically pre-judge, often for no concrete reason.  Inevitably, […]

In my book, "I AM Ah-Man, Man-Heart-Trust," I give examples of some things that have happened in my life during the past 10 years or so.  Most folks would consider these things to be very tragic.  However, because of the changes (as described in my earlier January blog entries) I incorporated into my life, I […]

Last week, I talked a bit about internal change.  This week, I want to focus on the external changes we can make in our lives. Our lives are made up of a series of routines that are sometimes so ingrained that we no longer recognize them as routines.  They are simply there as a part […]